Facebook Rules
Our culture is very important to us, and we moderate the group very closely! We have a very uplifting, kind environment. In our group, we encourage members to "report" content that makes them uncomfortable, versus "calling someone out." We do not tolerate "mommy wars" - we are all parents, and whatever our lifestyles, we are a village. Please reach out if you have questions about the group rules. They are enforced carefully.
Subjectivity
The most important thing to understand is the rules are based on the value system. We haven't spelled out every rule on the website. We delete posts, comments, and moderate based on our big picture values and the staffs' individual judgement. Because of this, we may not be able to point to a specific rule that was violated: we may simply say, "This doesn't align with our values."
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Our mission is stated on our website. We also have internal guidelines for our values and mission.
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Obvious basics: members may not disrespect Staff, no spam links (including Chime, etc.), no re-posting after something has been deleted, no screen-shotting/shaming in other groups, and other generally held Facebook etiquette.
Everything is FREE
Please don't buy/sell. Staff will delete posts if people are exchanging money for items. Trading is totally fine, although we encourage keeping it simple and gifting.
Exchanges and No-Shows
Staff is not responsible for arranging or tracking exchanges. We expect you to use internet safety. You may give items to anyone you prefer. It does not have to be in any specific order. You are gifting your property and it is your choice how you do so.
Please report no-shows to Mike Mann. We will handle through a private, internal process.
No reselling or collecting for charities
This group is not an avenue to make money. Don't take to sell.
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Don't collect items from this page (our charity) for another charity. We are here to serve our clients. Moms Help Moms - not "moms donate to charities."
Don't ask for money
No posting Venmo, Cash App, etc. Do not message members requesting money.
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This includes: Amazon Wishlists and GoFundMe links (as well as anything comparable), requests for gas and DoorDash. Asking someone to have pizza delivered or pay for gas is inherently requesting money.
If you're unhappy about something...
We have a boundary that we do not handle concerns in public posts or comments. Please direct such feedback in direct message to Director of Member Relationships, Mike Mann, or via email. You are unable to contact Berit Mann. If you would like to speak with her, please contact Mike first.
Small business are welcome... sometimes!
We love small businesses, and have many small business partners!! If you want to post about your small business, you must offer. discount specifically for the group (otherwise it will be removed). These rules don't apply to members with the GROUP EXPERT badge. No MLMs.
Controversy
Certain topics are very controversial in our culture. We mostly allow people to post about these, and we moderate them VERY closely. It is not a reflection on your post, but is because we have zero tolerance for bullying, harassment, "mommy wars", arguing, disinformation, or other unkindness. We are protecting you. These topics include: COVID, vaccines, sleep training, some daycare topics, STDs, weaning, going back to work, medical information, and more. Very simply: no major controversy. If something makes you uncomfortable, hit "report" - don't argue.
Boundaries/Unsolicited Advice
When a member asks a question, they are setting a boundary. They are asking for an answer to THAT question. They are not asking for unsolicited advice.
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If I ask, "How can I begin baby-led weaning?" - I am setting a boundary that I have already decided baby-led weaning is right for me. I am asking HOW to begin. It is a violation of my boundaries to give an opinion about whether or not it is a good option.
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Sometimes, you may think someone is doing something unsafe. Your opinion may be evidence-based. It is still a boundary violation to interject your opinion. Your role is to click "Report to Admin." Admin's role is to create an evidence-based, safe environment. We have internal policies for this, including responding, private messaging, deleting, turning off comments, banning, and suspending. We have internal policies to determine what sources are evidence-based.
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We will issue suspensions for boundary violations, even if we agree that your advice is correct. Boundaries are a core belief we share.
Last...
Sometimes you may see people post things that concern you, such as significant mental health struggles, or child abuse. This happens in every mommy group, and it can be very upsetting.
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Several of us are mandated reporters. Additionally , we have internal protocols when we become aware of unsafe situations for adults who may be struggling. These are handled internally, but know that as an organization, we take the (limited) action we can to step up for our members. Please call 911 in an emergency.